Sao Tome: Bishop João de Ceita Nazaré of the Diocese of São Tomé and Príncipe has delivered a strong appeal for fidelity in marriage, condemning the rise of infidelity and fractured family life in the island nation. In a heartfelt homily at Holy Trinity Parish on August 31, the 51-year-old bishop declared that marriage is not to be treated as entertainment or a passing choice, but as a sacred commitment whose neglect is tearing apart homes and society.
São Tomé and Príncipe, the second-smallest sovereign state in Africa after Seychelles, is witnessing what the bishop described as “one of the greatest spiritual and social challenges” in its history: the erosion of family values. He warned that widespread betrayal in marriages, particularly by men, is inflicting deep emotional and psychological wounds on wives, children, and the community at large.
“Marriage is not a game. It is a sacred mission,” he told parishioners. “Our families are wounded, destroyed, deceived, and left adrift because many have already forgotten the value of the word given at the altar.”
Bishop Nazaré spoke with anguish about the silent suffering of women. He said many wives, after years of self-sacrifice carrying heavy household burdens, selling fish, washing clothes, and helping to build homes are abandoned, left to feel worthless. “Our married women are dying,” he lamented. “They die inside; they die of abandonment; they die because they gave everything of themselves and were left with nothing.”
The bishop described infidelity as a “silent social wound,” corroding trust and leaving children in confusion. “How can we want a strong youth if the model we give them is one of lies, abandonment, and wounds?” he asked.
Drawing from Christian tradition, Bishop Nazaré praised women as pillars of families and faith, pointing to Mary, the Mother of Jesus, as a model of humility and service. “Mary carried the Son of God in her womb, but she never exalted herself. So too are our mothers. When they are faithful, they uphold the world. But today, many have been betrayed, wounded, forgotten,” he said.
He also challenged men to embrace responsibility, stressing that true manhood lies not in seeking multiple relationships but in remaining loyal to one’s wife and children. He denounced men who “lie, cheat, and then show up in church with the face of saints,” calling for integrity that is lived at home and not just performed in public worship.
The bishop’s message was clear: the renewal of society must begin with the family. He warned that sermons and church initiatives will bear little fruit if homes remain broken by betrayal and dishonesty. “If we want to change this country, we must start at home. Start by being faithful, truthful, and honest,” he said.
He concluded with an appeal for couples to honor their vows: “The Church can preach a thousand sermons, but if couples are not faithful, the children will continue to grow up wounded. Let us not allow betrayal, lies, and selfishness to destroy what God has united in love.”